Childhood is a time of learning and growth. Learning what sorts of behavior are acceptable and which ones are not is an essential part of this. Demonstrating bad behavior from time to time is perfectly normal. Just because it’s normal doesn’t mean that it’s always easy to deal with, however. So what can you do to deal with bad behavior in kids?
Have Empathy
The first thing to do when trying to deal with bad behavior in kids is to do your very best to have empathy for them. As a general rule, kids don’t mean to behave badly. They’re still quite young and often have a hard time regulating their emotions. They feel things very strongly and don’t always understand what they’re feeling, let alone how to communicate it in a more mature manner. This can lead to them lashing out. Being empathetic and understanding of this when your child behaves badly helps you temper your reactions, allowing you to help your kid understand their emotions and how to deal with them. This gives them the tools they need to behave better.
Put Them in Therapy
Sometimes bad behavior stems from issues and challenges that benefit from professional help in the form of therapy. If you find that you’re struggling to deal with bad behavior on your own, insight from a professional therapist could be beneficial to both you and the child. Benefits can be both short term and long term. Therapy that helps correct bad behavior can set kids up for more success in the future. Youth that receive early interventions are more likely to graduate high school. Considering that the vast majority of jobs require a high school diploma or an equivalent, that can make a huge difference.
Be Consistent with Boundaries and Consequences
Kids need boundaries, routine, and consistency. The absence of these things can sometimes be the cause behind bad behavior. It’s important to be consistent with both boundaries and the consequences for poor behavior. This can be tough, since in many cases enforcing consequences for bad behavior can feel like a punishment for you as the parent too. Still, it’s important. Do your best to be calm and firm when enforcing boundaries and consequences. Make sure you explain consequences and that you’re ready to follow through with them immediately. This is crucial when dealing with bad behavior in kids.
Bad behavior can be really frustrating for parents. It can help to have discussions about how to deal with bad behavior between both parents so you can present a united front. That way you’ll both be on the same page and can both be involved in helping curb the bad behavior. Remember, it’s totally fine to seek professional help if needed. You don’t have to do it alone.
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